The Affair

There is a series on Showtime called The Affair.

The series is about the psychological effects of an affair between a married waitress at a Hamptons diner and a teacher who spends his summer at his in-laws’ estate on the island. It also examines the ambiguous power of perceptive, showing both sides of the affair through the eyes of the affair partner and the unfaithful spouse.

Most of affairs are not because of sexual attraction. The lure of an affair is how the unfaithful partner is mirrored back through the adoring eyes of the new love. Another appeal is that individuals experience new roles and opportunities for growth in new relationships. Affairs can happen in good marriages and are less about love and more about sliding across boundaries.

In the midst of an affair you may feel more alive, your senses heightened, and feel younger. Life seems hopeful and new; the reality is that it will surely fade again. This series is definitely a Hollywood script; most of the time the betrayed spouse experiences PTSD when an affair is exposed. The other ugly side of an affair are when the children suffer:

“Children suffer when their parents engage in extramarital affairs, even when the parents succeed in keeping the affairs secret. While an affair is taking place children sense that the parent is expending emotional energy outside the family, the specialists say. As a result, the children may become anxious or frightened, or they may sense rejection and feel they must have have done something wrong.” Click here to read more about how affairs have a profound affect on children.