If you’d like to know the quickest way to change...
...something about yourself then think of a previously painful and unwanted experience and evaluate what you’d like to change in regards to your behavior. How did you emotionally react? Did you get angry, sad, did you shut down, etc? For example:
1. “I don’t want to feel sad about ____ anymore.”
2. “If only I didn’t get angry…”
3. “I want to feel close to people, but I can’t seem to open up.”
Your emotion/behaviors are NOT the problem per se – the problem is in HOW you are using them. Please note that any emotion, behavior, or experience is not inherently “bad” or “good,” but that they are all useful when expressed within the appropriate context and at the appropriate time. Ready, set, go!
1. Gather information
After you have gathered information, visualize yourself making the change then take action by:
And most importantly, appreciate you for who you are. We all have the capacity to change and know that some things come easier than others.