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Couples Counseling

  • Do you and your partner keep running into the same roadblocks when communicating with each other?
  • Do you feel that stress and not having enough time in the day has put a distance between the two of you?
  • Have either of you had an infidelity in your relationship and do not know how to recover?
  • Do you just want to be connected to your partner again?

I can help the two of you communicate effectively, heal and recover from infidelity, dissolve relational distress and connect on a deeper level, close any gap of distance to prevent loneliness and heal from past and present hurt.

Premarital Counseling

PREPARE/ENRICH leads the way in helping couples explore and strengthen their relationships. The main component of the program is an online survey you each complete in about 30-45 minutes. PREPARE/ENRICH is not just any survey. The items you respond to are based on research and are intended to help you identify the unique strengths and potential growth areas of your premarital or married relationship. I will provide feedback by helping you understand your results and learn important relationship skills. Built on a solid research foundation, PREPARE/ENRICH has been improved and refined over the years to become one of the best, most effective, easy-to-use relationship assessment tools available.

After we go over the results, you two will have a workbook to complete in the therapy sessions, which range from 6-12 sessions. Items in the workbook help couples:

  • Explore strength and growth areas
  • Strengthen communication skills
  • Identify and manage major stressors
  • Resolve conflict using the Ten Step Model
  • Develop a more balanced relationship
  • Explore family of origin issues
  • Discuss financial planning and budgeting
  • Establish personal, couple and family goals
  • Understand and appreciate personality differences

Approach

I typically work from the emotionally focused therapy approach (i.e., EFT).

EFT is usually a short term (8-20 sessions), structured approach to couples therapy and has developed alongside the science on adult attachment and bonding to look into what is happening in couple relationships. Typically, when our partner does something that intensely upsets us, it usually means they poked one of our old wounds. In therapy, we address what comes up when your partner does said things, help you partner empathize with your wounds, which in turns helps them to understand that it’s not just about them creating problems (when someone thinks they are entirely to blame they retreat into a safe spot of defensiveness) so they can turn to you and help you heal and work toward reacting/responding in a different way.

Higher Success Rate

If you are seeking a counselor, it’s a sign that you are ready to learn, heal and grow. Don’t wait till it’s too late. Couples who seek help earlier in their relationship have a much higher success rate.